We’ve heard the Bible verse about where are heart can be……
For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. Matthew 6:21
Most sermons center this verse around our spending. You know….. if all my receipts are from Wal-Mart, Target, or Amazon.com, my treasures take away from tithing, charity support or even helping out a friend in need. So my heart in essence is within the overindulgence and the over-spending.
But what if we apply that same verse to our personal relationships. The sting of this reality causes my heart to stop. I mean if you really think about what that verse is implying…… marital and parental relationships expose a different kind of story.
I have witnessed I don’t know how many times….. ahem, and I will be honest with you…… I, myself, have done this exact same thing. A parent’s eyes and attention focused on the cell phone reading text messages, surfing the web or just talking. The children seek attention by exclaiming, “Mommy, Daddy look!” Eyes don’t leave the tiny screen. Or only words are stated back, “Yeah, honey! Cool!” The time spent….. gone….. and only a text message attended to……
A video game is played or eyes on the TV or even computer time……. chores are ignored. Homework ignored. Friendly games of basketball with the family unwanted.
How about a craft or hobby overtakes the time that could have been spent with family and friends? Couldn’t I just put down the crochet hook to really listen to what my child is telling me?
Sending the kids outside to play just to indulge in a habit like eating, drinking…… ahem, there have been times when I chose food over spending time with my kids. Sad, but true. Breaks my heart to think I once did that.
Am I saying focusing on your phone, games, TV, computer or hobbies are bad? Not at all. What am I suggesting is that you evaluate exactly how much time is spent attending to them. Are we attending more to those pleasures than the people around us? Are we forsaking relationships over pleasure making objects?
What messages are we sending those we ignore or choose to pay more attention to a technological device? I am too busy to look. You’re not important. I don’t really care. You don’t matter. I don’t want to be bothered. You’re bothering me. You’re a bother.
I know that isn’t what we truly feel but those are the messages our actions are providing.
So where is your treasure? And where is your heart?
10 Things to do instead……
1. Instead of spending an hour on the computer surfing…….. read a book with your little tot.
2. Instead of pinning on pinterest……. find objects to use as pins and have a bowling tourney!
3. Instead of playing on the video game device alone…… call the whole family in the room and play together.
4. Instead of texting, emailing, or whatever it is you do on your handheld device…….. limit your usage to an hour a day and play a family board game or connect with your little ones.
5. Instead of watching TV……call the family into the kitchen and bake cookies! Then of course fill up a glass of cold milk and enjoy those warm delights!
6. Instead of painting……. string an old sheet on the clothes line and fill spray bottles with colored water. You and the kids get artistic spraying the sheet!
7. Instead of keeping your nose in a book or on a kindle……. save it until bedtime, and do a craft with the kids.
8. Instead of spending hours shopping…… spend hours talking with your teen.
9. Instead of driving and listening to the radio……. turn it off or turn it up and EVERYONE start singing like you’re a rock band!
10. Instead of everyone going into separate rooms to eat dinner…… sit together at the table and enjoy each others company.